Oct 05 2008
Sperm donor choice, freezing and faith!
Choosing my sperm donor was fun. Hallelujah for the internet! I trawled through numerous sperm donor catalogues from sperm banks mainly in the US, and mainly in California.
I decided that the spookiest thing about using a sperm donor was the anonymity, not just for me but for the child that might (“would”) be born as a result. So I considered only those sperm donors who were prepared to make themselves known to the child at age 18. Then I picked other characteristics appealing to me which included intelligence, musicality, similar background (being Jewish, ashkenazi and Russian) and a certain indefinable something in their personality. I picked one - and then one other.
There was then a certain amount of to-ing and fro-ing between me and the sperm bank, me and the clinic, the clinic and the sperm bank – but at last all the paper-work was completed, the sperm bank was paid (by me), the HFEA was satisfied (by the clinic) and the sperm samples were shipped to my clinic, and stored.
More anxiety on my part – how could I be sure that the right samples had been shipped? How could I be sure that they hadn’t accidentally been defrosted on route? How could I be sure that the samples would be properly stored by the clinic?
I couldn’t and I couldn’t and I couldn’t.
Now that’s what I call faith.
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I commend your decision to make sure the child can find their biological parent if they choose to. That is very thoughtful and might be really important to the kid later on.
Thank you! Sadly, I never did get to have that kid…
I did want the child to have the option of meeting that kind and generous person if they wanted to - although I have met people who were adopted who had no interest at all in meeting their biological parents.
wonder